No really, sometimes it really is not good. When you think too much you think about the things you want to do, and that leads to the things you haven't done. Which a lot of times leads to things you want and don't have. And for me, that leads to babies and sadness. So. . . I need a hobby.
During this "break" me and the hubby have talked about trying to strengthen our relationship. Focus more on where we are now and not on babies in the future. Do things. Have fun. Be a couple. I know some other ladies with infertility have told me similar things. Learning to get back to the here and now and not focus on "when we have a baby" is much harder than you think!!
As an infertile married couple. . . you're in a weird spot. The in-between. You are trying to have a family so you don't quite fit with the young, wild, and free bunch of friends you used to hang with before you decided to have kids. BUT, since your plans to have kids has stalled, you don't fit in with your friends who are parents either. You don't do much partying anymore since that lifestyle doesn't really fit in with you're desire to be pregnant and nurture a growing fetus. Shouldn't drink while taking metformin, it can mess up the blood sugar. Can't drink during the TWW either, there could be a baby in there!! BUT you can't load up the kids to take them to Chuck-E-Cheese's either. . . ya know, since you're kids don't quite exist. It's awkward being the one person at the 3rd birthday party without a child. The mom's don't really have much to talk with you about and the conversation can actually hurt on a bad day, because no you don't know how much the postpartum stretch marks suck, or how terrible the two's really are!! But you would like too!!
So, finding things to do beside sitting at home and thinking too much is hard!
I would like to find a hobby! Maybe something that will be hard to continue once I'm pregnant and have a baby... one of those "enjoy this while you can" kind of things. Crocheting? Knitting? I also want to find things for me and the husband to do as a couple. Everyone always says "enjoy your alone time together while you can!" . . . we have ALOT of alone time. . . what can we do to make it more enjoyable? There are some things we have always talked about doing that we never quite fit in, that we plan to try harder at. We love to ride the motorcycle. I want to take more trips on it. We did a poker run last fall and I think we will plan on doing a few more of those too. Can't just take off on the motorcycle when I'm pregnant!! We like to go fishing. Saturday afternoon fishing trips sounds like a great thing to add to the schedule! Don't think a toddler is going to enjoy sitting quietly with a fishing pole!! Hubs has always wanted to buy a gun and learn to shoot. Maybe go to the gun range?? Could be fun and def not baby friendly. The hubs has also recently purchased some golf clubs. So, guess im going to learn to play?!
--- SIDE NOTE--- FIND TIME TO RECONNECT WITH FRIENDS. BOTH WITH AND WITHOUT KIDS! SKIP THE METFORMIN AND GO HAVE A DRINK!! IT WONT KILL YOU AND YOU MAY HAVE A GREAT TIME!! AND IF ITS NOT A BAD DAY, GO PLAY WITH THE KIDDOS!! HANG WITH THE MOMMY FRIENDS ANYWAYS. GET MORE PRACTICE. GIRLS NIGHT!! MOMMY'S NEED A BREAK TOO!
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